What was the last important thing you remember discovering on facebook? When was the last time something from facebook added value to your life?  When was the last time it played a role as one of the major staples of your life? Which facebook memories really hold your life together? Is there anything better than a family holiday celebration where everyone updates their facebook the entire time?

Uh-huh.

I officially deleted my facebook account for good about 2 minutes ago, and it feels orgasmic.

In the fall of 2004, I vaguely remember signing up for the new online community from my giant box computer which was packed into the smallest shared desk space in my 20′ x 12′ dorm room. 🙂

I’m really glad that I was a part of the experience, the network, and the years of highly embarrassing rage-face pictures that lead to many awkward explanations in the workplace and at family gatherings.  I could spend a good hour listing all the benefits that facebook offers to people all over the world, but for me – I’m closing the chapter in my life.

Recently, I’ve been making changes in my lifestyle to eliminate distractions and build clarity in the most important areas of life: Real relationships, real people, authentic conversations, genuine experiences, absolute meaning.

Everyday that I progress in making this transition, it becomes more and more addicting.  The feeling is indescribable.

I was at a Holiday party last weekend with some old friends that I don’t get to see often in Knoxville, TN, and naturally I always feel like an outlier because the new direction I’ve taken to re-create myself.  I see my old self in all of  them, and I love them to death for who they are, but it’s very rare to have the opportunity to talk with them about living through passion, simplifying, entrepreneurship and relentless creativity in life.

From the outside, I know it must look like I’m just some insane workaholic who doesn’t pay attention to anything but his computer, but in reality, I’m paying more attention than anyone.  I’m absolutely PUMPED to hustle now in order to create the life that most believe are only in dreams.  I see through the fear and obstacles, and I know it’s not only 100% possible, it’s guaranteed as long as persistence is in place.   People live the life of their dreams everyday, and they get there because they know where they are going.  It’s all about setting goals and making progress towards them.  If you jump out of an airplane, you will always hit the ground.  If you want to change your life in 30 minutes, listen to Earl Nightingale’s ‘The Strangest Secret,’  where he addresses exactly how to live the life of your dreams.

So, despite my fist pumping vision of where I am going, I sometimes feel like a weirdo in relation to others around me because 99% of people don’t relate to anything.  They don’t “get it.”

It’s funny how things happen when you need them the most.

Lucky for me, there was another weirdo that I got to meet at the party, and it was exactly what I needed to know that I was doing everything right.  I was introduced to Butler by my friend Ciara.

“Heath – do you know Butler? You are both really fucking weird.  You will probably have lots of weird shit to talk about.”

Thank god for weirdos.

The conversation started with some phish (a band) smalltalk and quickly escalated into massive amounts of awesomeness, including minimalism, business automation, passive income, the world’s best music venues, guitar shred sessions and so much more.  I mentioned my plan to remove facebook from my life, and I was assured it was the right move when he said “Dude – I don’t have one at all.  I don’t really do the social media at all. It’s too saturated and fake. I want real.”

Ding Ding Ding.  Immediate justification for my “weird” thoughts.  Tell the world what you do and others WILL relate.

Despite how incredible of a stalker tool facebook can be, it really just transformed into a constant distraction for me.  Over a period of 10 years, it has really embedded itself in to the subconscious of my mind, and I literally have wired my brain to open it up without even thinking about it just to see if there is a little red number on the notifications box. You have too. It makes us feel important and popular.

Once inside, it’s like a never-ending content funnel to keep you on the site.  Before you know it, you’ve spent 30 minutes scrolling through your feed. The end result: you saw a few more baby pictures and found out Becky’s husband was cheating on her.  If it was a really good 30 minutes, you might have also read through an entire conversation between your friends arguing over who should win American Idol and why the other person should die.  Epic stuff.

So, let me ask you again:

What was the last important thing you remember discovering on facebook? When was the last time something from facebook added value to your life?  When was the last time it played a role as one of the major staples of your life?  Which facebook memories really hold your life together? Is there anything better than a family holiday celebration where everyone updates their facebook the entire time?

Crickets.

With that being said, for the Holidays, I am paying attention the IMPORTANT & REAL areas of life. Real conversations with my family, real interaction through real relationships and REAL MEMORIES. Facebook isn’t real or important to me anymore.

Give your family back the love they deserve.  Make a pact right now to cut back on social media.  Put your phones down for the Holidays. Get to know your family again like you did before social media. You won’t regret it.

As a gift to you, I am going to show you exactly how to save all your facebook data and de-activate your account, and I challenge you to give it up for atleast the Holidays.  Discover the power and beauty of your family for the next two weeks disconnected from the social distractions.  And then, if you find beauty in it, give it up for all of 2015 🙂

Trust me – it feels good to pay attention to real life again.

How to make a backup of all your facebook data and pictures before you deactivate.

Log into your facebook and go to your settings page.

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Underneath the general settings at the bottom of the page, you will see a link that says “download a copy of your facebook data.”

Click the link “start my archive” and proceed until you have a backup of your data and pictures.

 

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HOW TO DEACTIVATE YOUR FACEBOOK ACCOUNT AND PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR FAMILY FOR THE HOLIDAYS 🙂

Now go back to your settings page and click the “Security” tab.

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At the bottom of your security settings, there will be a link that says “Deactivate your account.” It’s time 🙂

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You have the option for telling facebook why you are leaving. I’d suggest opting out of emails from facebook so you don’t get tempted to re-activate your account anytime soon.. or EVER.

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Hit the confirm button and enter your password… and……. BOOM!  Make some real phone calls to your loved ones who aren’t with you today and tell them you are thinking about them in real time, voice to voice.  Put your phone away and have real AUTHENTIC and GENUINE conversations with those you are with.  Get to know them, what they have been doing.. their pain points.. their exciting lifely adventures.  Give some high-fives, fist pumps, ass-slaps & sloppy kisses.  Enjoy the warmth of your real family because they won’t always be around.

Don’t take the beautiful life you have for granted 🙂

Happy Holidays.

 

 

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